what were we thinking?!

it was the great trifecta.  when we planned liam's 10th birthday party, three glorious aspects came together:

1)  the only time we could do it was the night we got home from being at the beach for a week. 
2)  he wanted to invite four of his soccer friends -- crazy, fun, high-energy 9-year old boys.
3)  he wanted to have a sleepover.

i'll repeat that again.  he wanted to have a sleepover with four crazy, fun, high-energy 9-year old boys.

in all seriousness, they had a great time.  they were well-behaved for the most part, and didn't damage the house too much.  (there was a moment when i stomped up the stairs at full volume at close to midnight, threatening to call their parents if i had to come up there again ... but we won't dwell on such matters.)

actions speak louder than words.  except, maybe for these words ...  i'll let the video below do the talking.

 we decided to have cake and ice cream at the house ... turned out to be a very wise move

this is honestly the only picture i could get of the group at the bowling alley.  but after several attempts, i gave up, since it turned out to be quite indicative of how the night went in general.  (from the left, it's max, sam, kaidan, liam, and braeden)

 much more subdued the next morning over a breakfast of chocolate chip pancakes, for some reason

we really did enjoy it, and, most importantly, liam loved every minute.  and hey, 10 is a big one; it's worth a bit more hoopla.

(which also means, my son, don't expect a sleepover like this any time soon.  xoxo)

bald head 2014

we enjoyed another vacation at bald head island with chris's parents last week, filled with several of the usual suspects (ping-pong and pool and beach, natch) and a few new additions to the entertainment mix.  the biggest improvement was the commute; susanna reminded us that our faulty GPS led us to the wrong port last year which resulted in us having to take two ferries.  so we relied on google maps this time around, and it was smooth sailing (pun intended).  as for the rest of the week, i'll just let the pictures (and lengthy captions) speak for themselves ...

"you know what i remember about last year's house?" susanna asked us as we boarded the boat to take us onto the island.  "i left a library book there and it always comes up on our overdue list when we go to check out more books."  five minutes after arriving , she comes running out of her room, cackling with laughter -- and holding the dadgum book

 liam brought his clubs and somehow coerced chris and chris's dad into taking him out to the driving range on two separate days.  he apparently sank a 40-foot putt on the practice green and drew several comments of admiration

susanna tried her hand at geocaching for the first time, and even got a super cool rainbow loom bracelet out of it.  i see other geocaching escapades in our future [full disclosure: chris hadn't brought anything with him to replace the bracelet.  so they wound up leaving a sports clips frequent customer card.  and it wasn't even close to getting a free haircut.]

pitting a nine-year old boy against a senior citizen in a game of twister wasn't exactly the most fair match-up ... but a fun way to pass the time on an overcast evening

one of the perennial highlights of BHI: golf carts as the primary mode of transportation

and yet another perennial highlight: ice cream, of course

... to murphy (-ish)

we were home from the beach barely long enough to do some laundry and buy some groceries, before heading down I-40 in the opposite direction to join the basses at their mountain house.  the surroundings gave the weekend a totally different vibe, but no matter which side of the state we happen to find ourselves, we always have an amazing time with them.

last week it was a turtle in the middle of the road; this week it's a fish that web caught ... but notice that susanna is always happy to post near the animal without having to touch it.  momma didn't raise no dummy

liam was the only mann to catch anything -- and it wriggled off the line before he could pull it all the way out.  and sadly, we have no photo proof of it.  which sort of goes along with what they say about fishermen anyway, right?

s'mores over a firepit on a cool mountain evening ... if there's a better dessert, i don't know it

after last year's tubing debacle, it took some convincing for liam to try it again ... but he did, and we had a blast.  here's our motley crew, minus the photographer bill, in a haphazard conglomeration of tubes, floats, and an unpictured kayak

our saturday evening hike was calm and peaceful ...

... until this happened.  (i did get through it, after i forced myself to stop laughing)

i have no idea what marshall was wishing for, but i'm pretty sure susanna's wish was that her mother not embarrass her by getting stuck in a fence ever again

our final afternoon took us up off the blue ridge parkway -- and for some reason, provides us with the only photos of liam.  (not quite sure how that happened)

yep, that's marshall and susanna again ... but only because we three opted to end our hike after the picnic lunch in the meadow, while the rest of the group retrieved the car

a liam sighting again! 

from manteo (-ish) ...

way back when i was in maybe fourth or fifth grade, our P.E. teacher put together some sort of exercise program for the school to promote running.  she called it From Manteo To Murphy and hung this enormous north carolina map on the gym wall.  i don't remember the specifics of it all, but we were all supposed to keep track of how many miles we were running and report them on a regular basis.  she would then record the mileage progress on that enormous map, with the ultimate goal being that the school (or grade or even class? the details escape me) to have a total mileage that would equal a trip across the state -- from manteo (along the coast) to murphy (in the mountains.)  (and full disclosure: i'm so bad at state geography that before i published this post, i actually had to look up which city was west and which was east.  i guess the P.E. program failed me in that regard.)

anyway, i felt a bit like we had submerged ourselves in our own version of From Manteo To Murphy with the basses this month.  we spent a long fourth of july holiday with them at topsail, returned home for four days, and then spent the next weekend with them at bill's parents' house in west jefferson.  there's something really special about hiking up a mountain trail on a saturday evening after supper, and looking at your watch and realizing that exactly seven days prior, we had our feet strolling in the wet sand by the ocean's edge.  we never forget how blessed we are to live in a state where we can do both -- and to have access to vacation homes generously shared by our parents.

we had way too much fun to contain these pictures to just one post, so consider this our manteo installment, with murphy to follow.

the kids and i were actually down for ten days.  susanna and i headed down first and joined my parents for lunch before they headed home.  as we were about to pull into the driveway, we braked for a new friend -- and had to get out to say hello, of course

chris had to go home to work, so i had two full days with just the kids before chris returned with the basses.  on day one, i was quite pleased with myself for successfully erecting our new sun shelter.  on day two, the wind snapped the stupid thing in half and "i am woman, hear me roar" was no longer on my lips

whiffleball on the lawn with a leftie batter

after dinner most evenings, we headed out to the beach to work up an appetite for dessert

little did we know that dessert would be served to us one of those evenings, courtesy of a woman packing up to leave who was eager to get rid of the popsicles in her freezer.  she found four eager helpers

... make that five

our ears were glued to the weather radio bill brought in anticipation of some major issues with hurricane arthur.  here's susanna and chris, getting in a few last rides before we holed up inside to watch the storm blow in

thank goodness we were spared ... just some bad wind and rain (and cancelled fireworks)

marshall and susanna became cupcake chefs to help us celebrate the 4th

we needed two more cupcakes to make an entire flag ... but you get the idea

an amazing time with amazing friends (and a sand turtle to boot)

off his rocker

(this should have been posted the second week of june.  catching up, slowly but surely ...)

liam and i just spent five days up at kanuga, the conference center of the episcopal diocese of western north carolina.  even though i had attended a few events there back in high school, and even taught at the middle school in its town of hendersonville for a while before the kids were born, i couldn't remember much about the place.  but the second we stepped on the property i knew we were going to have an amazing week.  i was attending an annual christian formation conference as a sunday school volunteer, and liam was able to tag along because of the wonderful kids' camp-like program they offer to children of the conference participants. (susanna still had four days of school to attend, but she lived like a rock star that week with playdates galore and lots of daddy-daughter time.)

check out liam's schedule for the week.  sadly, i wasn't with him for any of this so i have no photos to share; i'm especially bummed that i didn't get to see him scale the super tall climbing tower.  with all the fun activities -- archery! lake swimming! game night!  -- care to guess what his favorite one was?  table tennis

we shared cabin 8 with my friend lisa and her daughter evie.  it was built in 1906 (!) and was charming, with a screened porch (that's liam on the swing), small family room with a fireplace, three bedrooms, and two baths.  the only thing it lacked was an a/c, but it was so cool at night that we slept under blankets with the windows open

we had free time some afternoons and filled it with tennis, hiking, and checkers

a mother-son selfie (love the huge cross on the other side of the water)

thursday evening, we attended a wonderful healing eucharist service and then walked up to the deck that overlooks the lake for a last visit before heading home the following morning.  we found two weathered rocking chairs next to each other and sat in them, holding hands, quietly rocking and listening to the cacophony of sounds that you only hear when immersed in nature on a summer's night.  i reflected on what i had learned that week in my workshops, grateful for the opportunity to grow in my faith as well as for the opportunity to spend such quality time with my son.  he gave my hand a squeeze as we continued to rock, staring across the water towards the big white cross.  and then he turned to me, obviously feeling the same sense of peace that i did.

"this is so awesome, mommy," he said, smiling.  "i feel like we're just like the people in a cialis commercial."

a way with words

one of the best ways to become aware of a special talent one of your children has is when that special talent comes up in a conversation among adult friends at dinner.  one recent saturday chris and i joined three other couples at a restaurant, and while we did discuss non-child-related topics, the talk turned, inevitably, to our kids.  the most surprising thing we wound up chatting about?  susanna's unique letter writing ability.

susanna sent out her birthday party thank you notes within the last few weeks, and it seems that how she expressed her gratitude made a lasting memory on the recipients (and their mothers.)  meg and her daughter polly learned that their book store gift card was quite the windfall to susanna.  meg said that susanna's exact wording was, "$15.00 is, like, a TON OF MONEY!"  (so not only can i not get her to stop saying "like", she apparently likes to use it in her writing as well.  the all-caps and underlining were also all her.)  amy couldn't remember lily's card verbatim, but reported that it was along the lines of  "i would normally explain in this note how much i've used the shrinky dinks you gave me, but of course you saw them yourself when we went to the beach so i don't have to." 

i realized, after hearing these stories, that i probably should at least glance at these gems before sealing them in their envelopes and sticking them in the mailbox.  with her tendency towards brutal honesty when armed with a pencil and stationery, who knows what she might write?  and what a timely lesson this turned out to be.

our dear friends the basses recently lost their fourteen-year old dog holly, and i bought a condolences card to send them.  chris, liam, and i all wrote heartfelt messages of sorrow and sympathy, having just been through a similar loss with our own pooch back in the fall.  susanna was the last to sign it, but  seemed stumped as to what to say.  she looked up at me and asked what had happened.  "it was really similar to super," i explained.  "holly just got really old and sick, so they had to put her down."  she nodded with understanding and turned back to the task at hand.

but before i slid the card in its envelope to lick it shut, i knew, this time, to read it.  and i immediately wished i hadn't.  

in case it's hard to read:  "Dear Basses, I heard that your dog passed away.  It must have been very hard to let the doter [doctor] kill her.  I bet know you miss her very much.  Love, Susanna"

i was horrified.  should i have her erase it?  oh wait -- she wrote in ink.  should i have her add on something a bit more sentimental?  should i buy another card?  should i apologize on the envelope, to soften the blow before they opened it?  ultimately, i just decided to give it to lainey in person when we saw each other at book club, with a warning for when she brought it home to read it.  i figured that the basses are susanna's godparents; they have to love her whether she has any sense of tact or not.    

i got an email from lainey later that evening.  "Thank you for your sweet card!  I laughed out loud when I read Susanna's sentiments : ) Don't know that I've ever laughed while reading a sympathy card!  It was just the medicine I needed."  in fact, when i told her that i might mention it in a blog post, it was she who took the picture of the card for me to use.  weeks after the fact, and they've hung onto this literary treasure; it still brings a smile to their faces. 

so maybe susanna knows what she's doing after all.

when losing is actually winning

liam and i headed down to myrtle beach for a soccer tournament at the end of april (while chris and susanna headed to the north carolina coast for a Y princess weekend) with grand hopes of winning the whole thing.  his team were seasoned veterans at this point, chock-full of talent with their eyes on the prize.  to further intimidate their opponents, this is how the entire gunners roster looked heading into the first game:

(the lighting isn't great, but it he has a bright blue streak in his hair)

so there they were, pumped up, adrenaline flowing ... and they lost.  it was close, but they lost.  and they were devastated.  a few of the dads walked them through the possible scenarios -- it was a round-robin format, so they actually still had a chance of winning the tournament IF they won the rest of the games and IF team that just beat them lost and IF their goal differential was larger, yadda yadda yadda.  i sort of tuned it out while we moms tried to come up with a game plan to lift their spirits.

and what better way to do that than a round of putt-putt?

one of the best mini golf courses we've visited ... 

and with an enthusiast like liam, we've seen quite a few

and then we headed to lunch, undoubtedly scaring off any poor patrons who happened to be out on the deck with our large group.

we returned to our gorgeous (and expensive) hotel for some down time, per the coach's instructions.  he wanted them well-rested before taking on their second game, where they'd hopefully win and put themselves in possible contention for the overall prize.  we all looked out of the windows sort of longingly at the beach and glittering pool below, frustrated that they were right there and we couldn't enjoy them.  ("absolutely no swimming," the coach jordan reminded them.  "it wears out your legs too much and we need all the energy we can get for this next round."  whatever, dude.)  and if we won that second game, then i knew we'd be pulling out of the parking lot at a totally unreasonable hour of the morning on sunday morning for the championship round.  "how was the beach?" people would ask after we returned home.  "i have no idea," i'd reply.  "but it looked nice from our 15th story window."

but my dream came true: their second game wound up in a hard-fought tie.  and while the more competitive folks in our group were disappointed, i was secretly pumped.  we'd actually be able to take advantage of all our resort had to offer.  no crack-of-dawn sunday departure; no required avoidance of the pool or beach.  the boys might have to play the consolation round with slightly more fatigued legs than had we skipped swimming, but really, who cared at that point?

the saying goes that winning isn't everything, which is true, of course.  but i'd like to add a new saying to the list: sometimes losing is winning too.  for while we never won a game that weekend (winding up with that one close loss and two ties), we certainly were victorious in many other ways.

the blissful face of a non-winner

who needs a bahamian cruise after all?

*note: i'm playing major catch-up now that it's summer and i have a moment to breathe.  below is the recap of our spring break trip from 2 1/2 months ago.  i started it soon after we returned, and then it sat in the drafts folder ever since.

"so, when do we leave for the bahamas?" susanna asked me one day a few weeks back.

i looked at her, feeling like i had been somehow transported back in time to a year ago when we actually were going to the bahamas.  "i'm not sure what you mean, sweetheart," i replied.

"well, spring break is coming up soon.  aren't we going back to the bahamas?  isn't that our spring break trip now?"

i had to laugh.  and then i had to let her down.  "i'm sorry, but we just can't do the bahamas every year," i explained.  "but you are in for a treat!  because we're going somewhere just as great -- williamsburg, virginia!"

but you want to know what's crazy?  fast forward to the end of our trip.  as we were gathering all of our bags to get into the car to drive home, both liam and susanna -- i kid you not -- declared williamsburg to be just about as fun as the bahamas were.  "if the bahamas were a perfect 100," susanna mused, "i think williamsburg was like a 99."

note to self: we can save a whole bunch of money armed with this revelation ...

 busch gardens.  39 degrees and pouring for most of the day.  the upside?  no lines

we stayed with dear friends from our asheville days, the hunts, who relocated to williamsburg shortly after we moved to raleigh.  jill (age 6) hit it off with susanna ...

... and liam and reagan (3 weeks his senior) were fast friends too

we opted for inside dining for lunch, complete with a show and really good beer

next day: colonial williamsburg, under thankfully sunny skies.   i kept waiting for the whining to commence because i know that's what i would have been doing at their ages (sorry, mom & daddy).  there was a ton of walking (in fact, chris's pedometer clocked in at over four miles) and educational, historical components to the day.  but they never once complained, even finding joy in trying on hats

 

their crime? being so stinkin' cute

our final destination: great wolf lodge.  such a huge hit that i foresee another trip in our future

practicing his jump shot ...

and his boogie-boarding skills  (we won't focus on the fact that he's supposed to be surfing)

susanna indulged us with one ride down one of the big water slides (a daredevil she is not) ... and then it was all about floating along the lazy river in a tube the rest of the time

the only time the kids bickered the entire trip was when we determined who got the top bunk in our cabing-themed great wolf lodge room for the one night we stayed there.  susanna won this time ... but we promised liam that he would prevail on our next visit.  (let this blog serve as a reminder, please)

how liam does putt-putt (notice the correct stance and grip)

how susanna does putt-putt (what? bending down to blow your ball into the hole isn't correct stance and grip?) 

and i've saved the best for last: MagiQuest.  imagine two children working together with a (borrowed) special wand to solve riddles and hunt down clues for HOURS and HOURS all over the hotel.  if only they had one of these in the bahamas ...