Saturday, September 29, 2012

guess and tell

susanna's day for "guess and tell" is wednesday.  she has to bring in an object from home and write three clues about the object and read them aloud to her first grade class, and then let her classmates guess what the object might be.  designed to be a writing activity, there are certain requirements of these sentences, which include correct punctuation and grammar and a minimum of seven words per sentence.  (susanna has found the word "very" to be, um, very helpful in this regard.  for instance, "it is comfortable to wear" does not meet the requirement.  but "it is very, very comfortable to wear" does.)

she really labored over her clues this week in particular, going above and beyond the minimum three sentences.  (of course, there are a few "very"s thrown in there.)  i recorded her reading these for her aunt leslie in california.
and witty as she always is, this was my sister's response:

"it is like a colorful winged butterfly."  I am glad she did not add: "it is like something a transvestite might wear in a parade."

:)

Love it!!

Thursday, September 27, 2012

heartwarming ... or maybe not

if you've ever been involved in an icebreaker activity, you might have been asked at some point about the object that you'd make sure you grabbed on your way out of your burning house.  you know, as soon as you have made sure every person is out safely -- what physical thing would you want to save?  i've been a part of such discussions a few times in my life and have typically heard answers like jewelry, or photo albums, or family heirlooms of some sort.  for me, after some consideration, i've decided that it would be the oil paintings of the children.  granted, these aren't the smartest things to want to save, as they're fairly large and heavy and nailed into the wall.  (but now i'm getting way into specifics when the whole point of the exercise is to reveal something about yourself to a group of strangers.)

anyway, if you were to pose this same question to liam, i can tell you without a shadow of a doubt what his response would be.  he wouldn't bat an eyelash before coming up with his answer.  what would he save?

the wii.

years ago, we dragged our feet for months before relenting and giving chris's parents the green light to give him a wii for his sixth birthday.  looking back, i don't know why we waited so long.  i guess we were worried that he'd become obsessed with the thing ... which, of course, he has.  but what we hadn't considered was all the GOOD things that can come out of having something so dear to a child's heart.

we have learned that giving or taking away wii privileges is the single best consequence/motivator/discipline tool/threat/reward that we could ever dream of.  you want liam to stop doing something?  discuss the possibility of removal of wii time.  want to reward him out of the blue for something?  give him ten minutes -- unsolicited -- with the wii.  the child only gets about twenty minutes of wii time a day, so giving him extra time is life-changing.  taking it away from him is crushing  -- and he makes sure you know it.  (and yes, i'm fully aware that this Nintendo plan would never be endorsed by any parenting expert.  and yet, i'm not afraid to admit it.  it works for us.)

last week, his behavior was such that i had to take away his wii time for saturday.  i honestly don't even remember what he did, but i remember the day because of what happened saturday afternoon.  the four of us were on a hike (well, we called it a hike to make it sound exciting -- it was really a walk) on the greenway trails near the art museum.  liam and susanna ran ahead and looped back around, meeting up with chris, while i lingered around the corner looking at a sculpture.  i was out of sight, but not out of earshot, so i could truly enjoy this gem of a conversation.
one of the many pieces of art along our hike.  there's probably some beautiful name for this thing, but the kids just called it "corn on the cob"

liam:  "where's mommy?"

chris:  "oh no!  we've lost her!"

liam (skeptical):  "really?"

chris:  "no, silly.  she's right around the corner.  besides, what would we ever do without mommy?"

liam (without missing a beat): "play more wii."

wow.  nice to be missed.

so let me revisit this burning house scenario.  i guess that it's quite possible that i might only have time to grab one oil painting ... would anyone blame me if i just so happened to save susanna's?

Monday, September 10, 2012

"Look who's coming up!"*

note:  the weekend of liam's 8th birthday, chris, chris's dad, and liam drove down to atlanta to watch their beloved los angeles dodgers play the braves.  i asked chris if he could recap the adventure.

In my peripheral vision, I saw what looked like a ball rolling along the concourse, where my dad, Liam, and I were walking as we avoided the rain that was falling on the field before the game.  Before I knew it, a man and his teenage son were asking if we had lost a ball.  These people were wearing enemy uniforms, so I hastily said, "No ... but thanks," and kept on walking.  Five minutes later, they were back again.  This time, I looked more closely.  Considering the fact that they were Braves fans looking at a family wearing Dodger blue, there was a certain kindness.

"Are you sure you don't want this?" they asked.  "Somebody must have dropped it and didn't even realize it."

"Um, sure.  Thanks," I replied, thinking it'd be a nice, if somewhat generic, souvenir for Liam. I took the ball and glanced at it through the clear plastic packaging.  It was only then that I realized what I had been given: a Rawlings Official Game Ball. Someone must have purchased it, thinking they'd get an autograph. I turned it over and my eyes grew wide. The familiar Dodgers logo stared me in the face.  Even though the rain continued to fall, I knew things were looking up.

I'm asked all the time how I became a Dodgers fan, and, as Liam is following in my footsteps, I imagine he'll be answering the same question.  So it's a story I want him to know.  My dad grew up in Jonesboro, North Carolina, which doesn't really even exist anymore.  My dad was a huge baseball fan, but all of his peers rooted for the perennial champion Yankees.  What fun was that, cheering for the same victors that everyone else did?  In those days, a boy could pick up Red Barber radio broadcasts of the Brooklyn Dodgers -- and a lifelong fan was born, following the exploits of Pee Wee Reese, Gil Hodges, Duke Snider, and of course, Jackie Robinson with an almost-religious fervor.

Almost two decades of Dodgers devotion went by before my dad found himself in New Haven, Connecticut, doing family therapy work as part of his graduate program at Yale.  The leader of the group was a beautiful, humble, professional woman named Rachel. Perhaps a year into working with this remarkable woman, some mention was made of Rachel’s husband Jackie.  My father, dumbfounded, turned to a colleague and asked, "You mean that Rachel is married to Jackie Robinson?”

In 1972, after Jackie had passed away, my parents were invited to a party of sorts at the Robinson home, as Rachel needed to hand over some of the philanthropic work Jackie had been doing. My parents, as usual, were the first to arrive. Rachel greeted them and said, "Joe, you might like to see Jackie's game room."  She led my dad downstairs to a room full of bats and balls and gloves.  Hundreds of photographs adorned the walls of Jackie and every world leader you can imagine. My dad just shook his head in awe.  Somehow, a backwoods Dodgers fan who grew up listening to games on the radio down in Jonesboro, North Carolina had found himself in the eighth wonder of the world: Jackie Robinson’s game room.

After an experience like that, is it any wonder that he passed down his love for the Dodgers to his only child?  The Dodgers were one of the things that most connected my dad and me.  I still remember him letting me stay up to watch game 1 of the 1988 World Series, where my beloved Dodgers were David to the Goliath Oakland Athletics.  When Kirk Gibson belted the greatest walk-off homerun ever, I saw it all on the black and white tv in my bedroom, leaping up and down on my bed and screaming with joy.  Many years later, I gave a speech in an adult public speaking class on the moments that led up to that fateful home run.  My genius plan was to create a dramatic build-up with my speech, and then hit play on the video recording of the home run to get a sure-fire A+.   What I didn't anticipate was choking up just trying to tell the story. I got my A+ all right, but more for the “real emotion” I conveyed in my speech (my professor's words) than the content.

The Dodger blood runs true blue in the Mann family.  So, when Liam was born, there really wasn't any question.  He had to be a Dodger fan.  His room and closet are full of Dodgers-related goodies, many of which are sent to me by one of my high school friends, who now covers sports for the LA Times.  (As a die-hard Braves fan, he has no use for all the Dodgers swag that comes his way. But he knows just who does.)

"The Dodgers…trying to catch lightning now"*

Back at the game, the rain subsided, and we headed to our section.  Dad, recently retired, had sprung for the best seats I have ever had at an MLB game, right along the first base side.  So far, Liam's birthday weekend in the ATL was going fantastically well, but what if the rain came back?  What if the Dodgers lost? This summer Liam and I attended four minor league games and one Yankees/Braves game ... none of which were won by the team he was rooting for.  One only needs to read the post about his meltdown at losing at Monopoly to understand that Liam is the poster child for the "agony of defeat."

Although the seats were still damp, some of the pre-game festivities were getting going following batting practice.  We hadn't realized it beforehand, but it was the annual MLB Civil Rights game, where certain civil rights heroes are honored.  We watched as legendary Dodgers pitcher and key to their 1955 World Series title, Don "Newk" Newcombe, waved from a convertible circling the field.  [Note: until Justin Verlander did it in 2011, Newcombe was the only baseball player to have won the Rookie of the Year, Most Valuable Player and Cy Young awards in his career.]  And who was that, taking in the festivities alongside MLB commissioner Bud Selig?  Rachel Robinson, of course.

"High fly ball into right field, she i-i-i-is... gone!!!"*

Then, the game started.  Uh-oh.  Aaron Harang, he of mediocre stuff, was on the mound for the Bums and walked Michael Bourne.  (Even at the ripe age of eight, Liam understands the dangers of walking the leadoff man, particularly when he's a speedster like Bourne.)  Martin Prado then blasted an RBI double.  And just like that, the Braves were leading 1-0.  Liam was starting to fidget with anxiety of the "oh no, not again" variety. To the top of the 2nd inning we went ... and then came HanRam. (He had only been with the Dodgers for a matter of weeks, but we call him HanRam like he's family.)  Hanley clobbered a 418 foot shot, dead center. And the Mann clan came alive.  We didn't have to wait long for more fireworks, as Ramirez, James Loney, and Luis Cruz hit consecutive homers in a span of four pitches.

Back-to-back-to-back.  Even if the Dodgers wound up blowing this game, we had seen a rare feat, and all was right in the world.

"In a year that has been so improbable... the impossible has happened!"*

The 3-1 lead held into the top of the 6th, and HanRam approached the plate once more.  I glanced at Liam, who sat on the edge of his seat, his eyes glued to his new hero.  The bat hit the ball -- and as soon as I heard it, I knew.  I shot up as I watched him circle the bases, my arms raised high, just as exhilarated as the kid who jumped on his bed watching the '88 world series.

The Dodgers had four hits the entire game -- and they were all homeruns.  My voice grew hoarse as I cheered, flanked on one side by my father, and on the other by my son.  Three generations of Manns in our Dodgers blue. 

What a way to spend an eighth birthday.

*Quotes above are from Vin Scully's famous call of Kirk Gibson's walk-off homerun to win game 1 of the 1988 World Series.  Watch the entire bottom of the 9th here: http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xd2fhk_1988-world-series-game-1-bottom-of_sport

(or, for the quick version, click here.)

william joseph mann II and the original william joseph mann

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

peaks and valleys

years ago, we started the tradition of "peaks and valleys" at dinner each night.  we go around in a circle, and when it's our turn, we share our day's "peak" (our highlight, our favorite part, our happiest moment) and our "valley" (the exact opposite.)  we usually get off on tangents based on what we all share, and one of the kids has to reign us back in.

i always learn a lot about the three people closest to me in my life, just from what they divulge as their peak and valley that day.  and as our schedules get more packed than ever with sports and dance and church activities and work meetings, it's our peak-and-valley moments that make me more determined than ever to continue our family dinners at least five nights a week.  they keep us connected.  which is really one of the most important things a family can be: connected. 

we've dived into the 2012-2013 school year, and the water's feeling mighty fine.  and how do i know this?  from the smiles on their faces, and their stories they regale us with, and the laughter that precedes them as they disembark from the bus every afternoon, of course.  but nothing is as perfect a summary of how they're feeling as their peaks and valleys from the first day of school.  over a meal of spinach burgers (liam's favorite) and sweet potato fries, they both shared the exact same peak and valley.

their peak?  going to school.

and their valley?  having to leave.

i'm immensely thankful that our children love it so.  i know that many kids don't.  and i know that it could change, and probably will, right about the time they hit middle school.  but for now, i know that we are blessed.  we are blessed that they are in an excellent school with teachers who motivate and inspire and challenge them, and surrounded by classmates who learn cooperatively with them.  we are blessed that they are in a beautiful, safe school building with resources and technology that enhances instruction and hundreds of thousands of dollars donated each year by supportive families.  we are blessed to have children who don't struggle academically and who make friends easily and who get up each morning eager to return.

we are blessed.  i know this.  we are blessed.

new backpacks, new shoes, and we were ready to go 15 minutes early ... how nice would it be if this lasted

2nd grader liam with his teacher, ms. hester
first grader susanna with her teacher, mrs. stelpflug (i'm fairly certain i'm spelling that wrong and still have no idea how to pronounce it.  i'm also fairly certain susanna's in the same boat)

all smiles!